Self Edit: Lets Talk About Self Care

When I had my daughter 8 years ago I didn’t think about how life will change so much, we adapt, we change, we move. Apart from some things that we took for granted before may now feel like a treat. For example a bath without a child knocking on the door, a wee without an audience….There are so many more to add but today I want to talk about implementing some self care.

I started this blog as a way to track my own self care journey. Self care for me isn’t just about a long bath or some make up it’s about my mental and physical health, it’s about learning to breathe and not be drawn back into anxiety.

I signed up to a life coaching/nutritional group and that helps me focus on me. It gave me a start but I wanted to delve deeper too. I took a life coaching course which helped me track my changes and successes, then signed up to the next step. It made me think about how I could help others and it gave me a purpose too. My first step for self care was to step away from so many hours procrastinating and over producing for my clients and learn how to plan efficiently so I would always have a daily hour for me.

So what do I do in this hour? Well that changes depending on how I feel but I was surprised that with a little bit of organisation I could fit that amount of time in when I didn’t feel like I could take 5 minutes for me before!

I organise – on a Sunday I organise my plan for the following week. This includes client work, blog work and gradually a meal plan too. By being more organised in other parts of my life it gave me time to breathe and relax.

I step away – it can be so easy to get drawn into social media and scrolling. I still find it difficult to step away (especially as my business is working around the children in half term) but it is a work in progress. I know if I spend too much time blankly scrolling then I miss out on other stuff.

I learn – I started with a life coaching course and have now signed up to an NLP course for life coaches, writing your happiness story course and a mindfulness practitioner course. I tend to grab them when they have special offers on but for me knowing I have the next course lined up in an area I enjoy keeps me focussed on the end result – being a life coach and counsellor to new mums that specialises in birth trauma.

I read – reading and imagination is an essential part of living. I used to read a book a day and that slipped drastically since having kids. Making sure I use 15-30 minutes at least to read everyday really is good for the soul. It sets a great example to the kids too!

I breathe – I put music on, sit and listen. Music and dance is a huge stress relief and one thing you can share with the kids too. Yoga is also a great opportunity to place self care into not only your own space but the kids space too. My boys have both had yoga class at nursery and I think starting this with them now can only be a good thing for their own mental health as they grow up.

So could you fit any of these things into your daily life to make you feel better?

So I suppose this is me starting this blog over. I hope that you stay with me on the journey. You can find me using the #selfcarewithkids and #dailylifeedit tags over on Instagram for daily updates.

Share:

6 Comments

  1. February 16, 2018 / 9:51 am

    This is brilliant Chelle – I need to start doing some proper planning, but recently my little breakdown (!) followed by Toby’s chicken pox have thrown everything into chaos! I need a fresh start with my self care and you’ve inspired me xx

  2. February 16, 2018 / 5:24 pm

    I love all these ideas. I really need to make sure that self care becomes a regular part of my routine. I want to find the time to read and practice yoga again. Hugs Lucy xxxx

  3. February 17, 2018 / 10:38 am

    It is so great that you have done this – you are so right self care is majorly important in life.

  4. February 17, 2018 / 12:46 pm

    I find reading poetry incredibly soothing, that and s listening to spoken poetry x

  5. Georgina
    February 17, 2018 / 3:11 pm

    Yes yes yes. Why do we get so shit at self care when we become mums? It drives me insane and it’s such a bad example to our kids.

    We should be treating ourselves like little toddlers.

  6. February 17, 2018 / 8:10 pm

    Organising definitely calms my soul, like you I like to do it on a Sunday as it helps clear my mind for the week ahead and focus.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *